I am a sperm donor

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What considerations and reasons do sperm donors have for donating? Why do they put in all the time and effort? Could it just be the money, or are they also thinking about the good they do and the people they help? We have asked a few.

For one of our sperm donor, the inspiration, conviction and dedication to become a sperm donor from a good friend:

“I became a sperm donor after learning that my best friend was a donor child. I kept thinking that it was a sperm donor, who made his life possible, and I thought it would be amazing, if I could contribute to make someone’s greatest wish of being a parent come true,” he says.


Another donor continues: “I have not found the woman for me yet, and somehow it is great to know that even if I should never have kids of my own, there will be a part of me out there in the world.” 

As with blood donors, you need to be in good health to be sperm donor at European Sperm Bank
All sperm donor applicants are subject to a thorough screening process, including blood tests and genetic tests before they become active sperm donors. Further, all applicants have to provide a thorough family health history and complete a personality test before entering sperm donor programme at European Sperm Bank. 
As a result, only 5 to 10 % of applicants become donors. 

This is all for the benefit of the many women seeking pregnancy through donor sperm – and a personal stamp of quality for the donors:  “When I finally was approved as a donor after the numerous tests, I was beyond happy with the thought of changing the lives of people, who so badly wish to become parents. I like to think that I have made difference,” he says. 

Learn more about the sperm donors here 

//posted by Lilian, Fertility Nurse and Donor Coordinator at European Sperm Bank

Choosing the right sperm donor

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“Choosing a sperm donor is quite a journey. Initially, you think it will be easy, but it can be quite overwhelming, because there is so much choice and also so much information. Ultimately, what I learned is to narrow your focus, and look at the things that are most important to you. It can be difficult as a couple to find a donor that you are both really happy with, but we got there in the end.”  [Chloe Jenkins]

Finding the love of your life often results in the great wish of having a child. Being a lesbian, it is pretty obvious that it’s nothing you just do – or that comes naturally. 


When Chloe and Emma from Glasgow, UK, met each other while in their mid-30s, they quickly starting talking about having a child. Emma was going to be the one to carry the baby being slightly younger than Chloe – and also healthier, according to Chloe. 

The couple hoped they would conceive quickly and it was clear to both of them that using a sperm donor from a professional sperm bank, was the only right option for them. They knew others who had gone through the same reflections, and who spoke fondly of getting help through a sperm bank: 

“The first big decision is choosing a known donor or not. I pushed for us using a sperm bank because I didn’t feel comfortable with using someone we knew, as I felt it complicated our family relationship with our future child”, Chloe says.

As the couple resides in the UK, choosing a non-contact was not a legal option. It might not be the right solution for everyone, but Chloe and Emma felt from the beginning that openness and honesty was the way to go, so there was no doubt in their minds that using an open donor was the best decision for them and their future baby.

The couple was overwhelmed by the many options on the European Sperm Bank website. They started out by going through the donor list separately – hoping that afterwards, when comparing the donors, they would have selected some of the same donors. That did not happen, as they had different approaches: 

“I started out by looking at very detailed information in a search for the ‘perfect’ donor, which soon became a little overwhelming. I took some advice from my parents and some friends, to be much more instinctual about it – which coincidently was Emma’s approach! They told me: Find donors who I connect with either based on their pictures or simple information like jobs and interests, and only if I  like someone then check out the detailed info”, Chloe says.

Finally, the couple sat down together and started their search for a donor by only using one filter: a Caucasian donor. They didn’t want to put any further layers of complexity on their future baby’s identity than necessary. They both wanted a donor, they could relate to, rather than being very specific about hair and eye colour. 

Family medical history is something that takes up quite a bit in the extended profiles. This is very important for some people when choosing a donor, but for Emma and Chloe it was much more important to feel some kind of connection with the donor’s interest:
 
“This for me made it all a much more natural process. After all, we don’t rule out potential partners  based on their grandparent’s health history”, Chloe states.

The donor list showed 50 available donors and the couple started out by looking at baby pictures. It was not anything particular they were looking for – they went by gut feeling. They narrowed it down to about a dozen donors, and then began to look through the donors’ profiles and staff impressions. Chloe and Emma continued going with their gut feeling, and ended up with seven potential donors. They asked each other which of these really stood out and were left with the final three options. 

The final match came with the handwritten note. There was no doubt in their minds that they had found their donor. He was not perfect, but then who is? 

“In the end we are really happy about our choice as a couple, and we feel that we have a strong story to tell any future children about the donor, who so kindly helped us to bring them into the world”, Chloe concludes.

//posted by Stinne, Client Service Manager at European Sperm Bank

How we test our sperm donors

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We all have little fault in our genes. But when you get pregnant with a sperm donor, you are actually safer than if you did it “the normal way”.

There is no such thing as a perfect man or the perfect woman. In fact, we all have different little imperfections – also on a genetic level.

Even though it is extremely rare that sperm donors turn out to be the cause of a condition in a donor child, it is necessary to be extra careful when screening sperm donors.

​While it is not possible to completely remove all imperfections, we can make sure that we rule out most serious diseases and conditions through testing and thorough screening of the sperm donors.


At European Sperm Bank, less than 10 percent of our sperm donor applicants make it all the way through the screening process.

During this process, all our donor applicants are subjected to among other:

Therefore, we can enforce our strict policy of only selling thoroughly screened sperm of the highest quality.

//posted by Thomas – ​Head Laboratory Technician at European Sperm Bank

Third edition of German LBGT handbook out now

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The renowned German handbook Regenbogenfamilien. Ein Handbuch has been revised and published in its third edition. It is now available from the publisher. 

Regenbogenfamilien. Ein Handbuch by German author Stephanie Gerlach is considered the standard on all aspects, issues, questions and concerns when LGBT couples consider starting a family in German-speaking countries.

Now in its third revised edition, this comprehensive German language compendium gives new and updated invaluable insight on decisions, prospective parents will need to confront: from adoption, sperm donors, pregnancy and artificial insemination to foster families and puberty.

In addition, the author includes more interviews with LGBT families, who share their experiences with the readers.

The book is an indispensable reference tool for anyone considering parenthood.


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You can order the book now at Querverlag.de

​​Stephanie Gerlach is a social worker and lives with in Munic with her wife and daughter. She works as a freelance consultant to same-sex couples and families, and has developed and worked with anti-homophobia training since 1998. She has also published various scientific articles on lesbian and gay parenting.

European Sperm Bank has proudly sponsored the publication of this third edition.

//posted by Adam