Open eller Non-contact (anonym) sæddonor? Dette skal du overveje, når du vælger sæddonor.

Der er flere ting, du skal tage stilling til, når du vælger at få et barn med hjælp fra en sæddonor. Et spørgsmål du uden tvivl kommer til at stille dig selv er, hvordan vælger jeg, om sæddonoren skal være Open eller Non-contact (anonym)? Valget får senere indflydelse på dit barns mulighed for at få sæddonorens identitet udleveret.

For at give dig de bedst mulige forudsætninger, for at vælge den type donor der er rigtig for din familie, har vi spurgt psykolog, Henriette Cranil, til råds. Henriette Cranil har specialiseret sig i at vejlede solomødre til børn af sæddonorer.

Hvad er forskellen på Open og Non-contact (anonym) sæddonor?

Den eneste forskel der er mellem en Open sæddonor, og en Non-contact sæddonor, er muligheden for, at dit barn kan få sæddonorens identitet udleveret, når barnet bliver myndigt. Uanset om du vælger en Open eller Non-contact (anonym) sæddonor, kan du få de samme detaljerede oplysninger om sæddonoren. En donorprofil indeholder blandt andet beskrivelser af donorens helbred og familiens sygdomshistorik, personlige og fysiske karakteristika, mv. Du kan læse mere om donorprofilerne her.

Open sæddonor

• Detaljerede oplysninger om sæddonoren i en online donorprofil
• Når dit barn fylder 18 år, kan barnet kontakte sædbanken og få udleveret donors identitet. Det er kun barnet, der kan få donors identitet at vide

Non-contact (anonym) sæddonor

• Samme detaljerede oplysninger om sæddonoren som gør sig gældende for Open donorer
• En Non-contact (anonym) sæddonor ønsker ikke at udlevere sin identitet

Hvordan vælger jeg, om sæddonoren skal være Open eller Non-contact (anonym)?

Der er intet rigtigt eller forkert valg, når du skal vælge mellem en Open eller Non-contact sæddonor. Begge donortyper er lige meningsfulde. Når du træffer valget mellem en Open og en Non-contact sæddonor, skal du være bevidst om, at du tager et valg på vegne af dit barn, som ikke kan gøres om. En sæddonor kan ikke skifte fra at være Non-contact, til at blive Open sæddonor, eller omvendt. Det er derfor en god idé, at du tænker begge muligheder igennem, og gør dig det klart, hvorfor du vælger, som du gør.

Hvad betyder valget af sæddonor for mit barn?

Ifølge psykolog Henriette Cranil, påvirker det ene valg ikke dit barn mere positivt eller negativt, end det andet: “Dit barn påvirkes af mange forskellige omstændigheder, relationer, og betingelser, og bliver ved med at udvikle sig hele deres liv. Børns identitet bliver i høj grad påvirket af alle de mange faktorer, der rent faktisk er til stede i deres liv – forældre, eventuelle søskende, institutionsliv, skolegang, og graden af omsorg og inddragelse, for blot at nævne nogle få af faktorerne. Dit barn kan, med andre ord, blive påvirket ad andre veje, end lige præcis det, at der er tale om en sæddonor, man aldrig vil få et personligt forhold til” fortæller Henriette Cranil.

Om du vælger en Open eller Non-contact donor, er helt op til dig, men vi råder dig til at være afklaret med beslutningen, og at turde tage samtalerne, når dit barn begynder at stille spørgsmål. Med årsagerne bevidst har du et godt udgangspunkt for at give dit kommende barn gode og velovervejede svar om dit valg.

Kommer mit valg af sæddonor til at påvirke mit barn?

Det er helt naturligt, at dit barn vil komme til at stille spørgsmål, der handler om deres biologiske ophav. Det kan være spørgsmål som, “Hvor har jeg mine læbers form fra?” eller, “Hvor har jeg mit særlige temperament fra?”. Og mere reflekterende: “Ved sæddonoren, at jeg eksisterer?”. Mange af disse spørgsmål er besvaret i de donorprofiler, som er tilgængelige for forældre og børn og er ens for både Open og Non-contact sæddonorer. Opstår der spørgsmål, som ikke kan besvares her, har hverken børn af Open eller Non-contact donorer krav på at få deres spørgsmål besvaret af donoren. En Open donor forpligter sig kun til at udlevere sin identitet – ikke til en relation med børnene.

Henriette Cranil fortæller, at det generelt for disse børn er vigtigt, at de lærer at acceptere, at de er børn af en sæddonor. De skal lære at forholde sig til, at de ikke kender deres biologiske ophav, og for børn af en non-contact sæddonor gælder det også, at de ikke vil have mulighed for at få hans identitet udleveret.

“Det kan være en gradvis proces at acceptere, at man er barn af en donor, og det kan hjælpe børn af en donor at dele processen med en fortrolig, der respekterer og deltager i refleksionerne. Børnenes følelser skal imødekommes, accepteres og støttes. En del af denne støtte kan være blot at lytte til tankerne og følelserne. En anden del af støtten kan være at deltage i refleksionerne: Hvorfor optager spørgsmålet dig? Og hvordan ville det være, hvis du kendte svaret?” fortæller Henriette Cranil.

Vær ærlig om barnets ophav, uanset hvad du vælger

Det helt afgørende for dit barns trivsel og identitetsfølelse er, at der er åbenhed om barnets ophav hos de nærmeste, fortæller Henriette Cranil. At barnet kender til sit ophav, og at du som forælder kan rumme både de positive og de negative tanker og spørgsmål.

“Vi ved, at det kan være svært for et barn, hvis forældrene holder det hemmeligt, at de er barn af en sæddonor – eller at far ikke var den far, man troede. Det kan få indflydelse på børnenes identitetsfølelse,” forklarer Henriette Cranil.

Grunden til at hemmeligheden kan påvirke børnenes identitetsfølelse er, at der er tale om et grundlæggende tillidsbrud, og en livs- og identitetshistorie, der skal skrives helt forfra. Henriette Cranil råder derfor forældre til børn af en sæddonor til at tale åbent med barnet, om deres biologiske ophav, allerede fra 2-års alderen. På den måde bliver det, at være kommet til verden ved hjælp af en sæddonor, en integreret del af barnets livsfortælling helt fra starten.

“Dialogen med de helt små børn, omkring hvor de kommer fra, bør være enkel og faktuel. Senere i barnets udvikling kan samtalen indeholde flere tanker, følelser, og måske kritik, som en sund del af det at vokse op med donorbaggrund som livsvilkår,” afslutter Henriette Cranil.

Optimise your chances of a healthy baby

GeneXmatch is a service offered to you as a natural step on your fertility journey. Our donors are selected based on thorough genetic testing to optimise the chances for healthy babies. But as the prospective mother, your genes also have a role to play. GeneXmatch is a way for you to minimise the risk of disease-causing combinations from yours and your donor’s genes.

What we do

We test your recessive genes and match them against the same genes of your chosen donor to identify the risk of more than 390 autosomal recessive serious diseases. If you are a carrier of one or more mutations in the recessive genes investigated, we will only match you with a donor who is not a carrier of a mutation in the same gene(s) as you. This reduces the risk of recessive diseases in your child.
The second test concerns 12 genes located on your X chromosome. If you are a carrier of a mutation in any of these X-linked genes, you have a risk of having an affected child, regardless of the donor. In this case, we will offer you genetic counselling to determine your options and how to proceed on your fertility journey.

It’s easy

The only thing we need from you is a saliva sample. You will receive a test kit from us with full instructions on how to provide and return your sample. You will get your result approximately four weeks after the lab has received your sample.

I decided to use a sperm donor

Our newest blogger, Henriette Cranil, is a psychologist and mother of two 7 year-old twins conceived with help from a sperm donor. As a psychologist, Henriette has made it one of her specialities to advise singles and couples in having children with a sperm donor. She helps find solutions to the many questions and dilemmas that rise when they consider conceiving with the help from a donor. 

This is Henriette’s story.

WHEN I was in my early 30’s I began to imagine how it would be to become a mother. The pictures in my head became more and more defined and I started to see images of myself as a mother. I also began to stop and look at children’s clothes and teddy bears. I knew a lesbian couple who were pregnant at the time with help from a sperm donor. They were flying on cloud nine, completely consumed with bliss and happiness. To me it was amazing to witness, and I was wildly inspired.

During that time, I was single, happy and in a really good place in my career as a psychologist. Summer came, I was 34 years old and I asked myself what I was really waiting for in regards to becoming a mother? The answer was, of course, a boyfriend in a “the love of my life”-way but that kind of love doesn’t necessarily appear exactly when you want it. Therefore, I decided to change the order and instead become a mother on my own and subsequently bet on – hopefully sometime – meeting a lovely boyfriend.

Becoming pregnant, becoming a mother

From here on things moved quickly and a few months later I was pregnant. When I reached 5-6 weeks of pregnancy, I went to have the first scan at the Hospital. This was the moment I got one of my life’s greatest and best surprises: there were two beating hearts. I was expecting twins! Today I am the mother of a boy and a girl of 7½ years. 7½ intense, wild, enriching, changing, different, fun, loving and sometimes exhausting, years.

The decision to become a mother on my own was easy for me, but I also went through a lot of considerations during the process. Should I choose an anonymous or open donor? What if it turns out I cannot get pregnant? What is it like growing up without a father? How will the outside world react? How do you talk to the children about it? How do we get by every day? How would it be for a future boyfriend to be involved in this little family?

Let’s share knowledge

I will regularly be discussing questions like these and many others on the blog. Today, I have made it one of my specialties as a psychologist to advise singles and couples in becoming parents through a donor – throughout the journey from the reflection phase to the many phases of questions and dilemmas you meet as parents.

I look forward to sharing thoughts, questions and suggestions for answers and hopefully inspire you to lots of courage, ideas and good decisions!

European Sperm Bank at the Fertility Expo in Copenhagen

26-27th of May we will be at the annual Fertility Expo in Copenhagen!

If you are contemplating starting a family soon, already trying, or if you are receiving fertility treatment, Fertilitets-messen is the place for you and everybody in search of knowledge, facts, explanations and dialogue regarding all aspects of infertility and fertility treatment.

9 percent of children born in Denmark every year, are coming in to this world with the help from fertility treatments. Most of the people seeking help at a fertility clinic are couples who are having trouble conceiving; some are suffering from PCOS, some need donor eggs, some need special procedures such as ICSI or IVF. Others are single women and Lesbians who need donor sperm.

One of the reasons to have a fair about fertility is to share knowledge and bring it into focus. Today, we are all probably familiar with friends or family who have needed assistance in trying to conceive. We all need to speak up and openly about it – let’s help each other and spread the word!

Fertilitets-messen aims to break the taboos so often associated with infertility by providing unbiased information and heightened levels of information, enabling you to make an informed choice.

Obviously, we at European Sperm Bank are participating and we are ready to discuss and answer any questions you might have about donor sperm, how to choose a donor, differences between open and non-contact donors etc.

Time and Place

26-27th of May 2018

Docken, Copenhagen

Opening hours

Saturday/Lørdag: 10.00 – 17.00

Sunday/Søndag: 10.00 – 17.00

Get more information here!

l’European Sperm Bank vous invite à une réunion d’information à Paris

Nous vous présenterons les différentes techniques de procréation médicalement assistée (telles que l’insémination et la FIV) ainsi que les différents types de don de sperme et la différence entre un donneur anonyme et un donneur ouvert.

La réunion se tiendra en français.

Vous aurez la possibilité de poser toutes vos questions, tant générales que personnelles, pour bien vous préparer à prendre votre décision.

Lors de la réunion, l’European Sperm Bank sera représentée par Lilian Jørgensen, coordinatrice donateurs á ESB et Giulia, sagefemme de la clinique de fertilité Vitanova. Ensemble, nous voulons vous aider à bien vous préparer en répondant à toutes vos questions.

Notre prochaine réunion aura lieu le 07. Juin 2018 de 19H30 a 22H00 á :

Hotel Turenne le Marais, 6 Rue de Turenne- 75004 Paris

Pour toute question, n’hésitez pas à nous contacter!

Donor sperm is not a discount product

Lately there has been different stories in the Media concerning the purchasing of donor sperm. At European Sperm Bank we would like to summaries, what we believe are very important aspect about the topic Donor Sperm. When choosing donor sperm, it is pivotal that instead of just comparing prices between sperm banks, that we instead focus on why and how sperm banks are different. What they actually offer – besides the sperm.

Accepting the right donors

At European Sperm Bank we make a difference by selecting and having the best donors. Our screening process is probably one of the best and most thorough worldwide. We are extremely critical and will always say NO rather than accept an unknown risk when approving donor candidates. We constantly evaluate and choose the best testing methods and practices to give everyone peace of mind that genetically bound diseases are not transmitted. This is also the reason why we have an in-house employee, a specialized geneticist, who has been in the genetics field for 30 years. Our geneticist is always involved in the evaluation and acceptance of any donor. Since it is our overall goal to help creating wonderful and healthy children we find it crucial to be able to offer exactly this kind of genetic security and counselling as part of the process. Having a donor child is one of the safest ways to have a child. Even so, we must always embrace the fact that we are dealing with nature – and therefore our own imperfect genes.

How we test and screen

Our screening approach is fundamental to how we define ourselves as a sperm bank. It has been the key element in our operations since we were founded in 2004 and it continues to be so as we review and update processes on an ongoing basis. Needless to say, our screening program complies with the regulations set out by the Danish Health Authority and meets and exceeds the EU screening requirements. Compliance is a number one priority with us and you should always look for a sperm bank who is compliant with local authorities.
Core to our approach is that we only accept donors with superb sperm quality (only MOT20+) Luckily, we receive many applications every day from men keen to be donors, but after our thorough testing only 5-7% of the applicants are accepted as donors. We reject a lot of potential donors due to the sperm quality alone, but obviously the donors own and family medical history influences whether one might be accepted or not. We never take any chances.

We care and think about the future

We offer the best and most professional guidance to those in need of donor sperm. We ensure that women and couples experience a positive and valuable difference when contacting us. And we fully understand that using a sperm donor is rarely a first choice. This is also why we take our time to listen and provide the right counselling. Daily we are in contact with women, men and couples from around the entire world who needs help, sparring, good advice or simply a chat about the choice and process they are facing.

Choose European Sperm Bank

Sperm is not a discount product. And shouldn’t be treated as such. Make sure to ask the right questions before you make your choice. Just to be sure what you will get besides the sperm.
The most important statement we can make, is that we help you giving the gift of life. We want to be the ones who made the real difference in your life by providing you with the best quality sperm and the best counselling. This way we believe that happy and healthy children are being born.

Please contact us for more info or start your journey to parenthood here.

Ready to choose a sperm donor? Look at our extended donor profiles here!

So funktioniert das mit der Samenspende

Nachgehakt: So funktioniert das mit der Samenspende – SCHWULISSIMO sprach mit Annemette Arndal-Lauritzen, CEO der European Sperm Bank

Wie sicher sind eigentlich Samenspenden?
Wir sagen normalerweise, dass Spendersamen eigentlich sicherer sind, als wenn ein Kind auf “herkömmliche” Weise gezeugt wird. Denn die wenigsten Frauen lassen ihren Mann testen, bevor sie anfangen, Kinder mit ihm zu zeugen. Unsere Spender z.B. durchlaufen einen sehr detaillierten und anspruchsvollen Screening-Prozess, bei dem sehr gründlich getestet wird. Hierbei überprüfen wir u. A. die Gesundheitsgeschichte der Familie über mehrere Generationen und testen auf mögliche Infektionskrankheiten und natürlich genetische Vererbungen. Und natürlich wählen wir unsere Spender auch nach ihrer Spermaqualität – wobei wir nur diejenigen akzeptieren, die eine sehr hochwertige Spermaqualität liefern können.
Mit anderen Worten, die von uns akzeptierten Spender werden umfangreich getestet. Nur 5 – 7 % der Bewerber werden überhaupt in das Programm aufgenommen werden.

Weiterlesen: http://www.schwulissimo.de/gesundheit/248084/NachgehaktSofunktioniertdasmitderSamenspende.htm

 

My husband was a sperm donor

Emma’s husband became a sperm donor at European Sperm Bank before she met him. She wants people to know that the deed of a sperm donor is just as noble as those who donate their blood. She is immensely proud of her husband! But the fact is that many women do not want their partners to be sperm donors, and they are sometimes shocked when they find out that their partner could already have fathered multiple children around the world.

“I donated my sperm…”

I had been going out with my then boyfriend for two months when he suddenly mentioned that he had something serious to tell me. As I was madly in love, I was petrified that he was going to break up with me, but he said, and I clearly remember even though its many years ago: “I believe you and I are going to be together forever, so I need you to know that I was a sperm donor a few years ago”.

I didn’t take it lightly at first – him being a sperm donor, but I must also say that I am incredibly proud that he made the choice of giving a little bit of himself in order to help others. I have both friends, family and colleagues who have struggled to conceive. Before I fell pregnant myself, I actually worried a lot about if this was even possible. We hear a lot about fertility issues in the media. In fact, we hear about it so much that we easily forget that most people luckily, do not have any problems conceiving. But still, what if no one wanted to donate their sperm? What about the families where the man has been diagnosed with cancer and become infertile as a result? What about those who suffer from azoospermia or diseases that are preventing them for having children? Or what about lesbians and their hopes and dreams of having children?

It’s not a taboo, it’s amazing!

I honestly have a hard time figuring out WHY so many women do not want their men to donate sperm, and I cannot help thinking “What if it was YOU? What if you couldn’t have the child you’ve always dreamt of having?”

This goes for both of us, we do not consider children born resulting from my husband’s sperm as our children, or even half siblings to our own children. I know some women would think a lot about “the other children”, but I firmly believe that these other children have a magnificent family where my husband doesn’t play any other role than being “the man that made this possible”. I do like the idea though of sperm donors being open and for the children to be able to contact them, but it’s just not something I think about on a daily basis.

We haven’t been super open about it. It still feels like a private thing and really, my husband did it to help others and there isn’t much else to it. I can say for sure, that I do not worry one bit about any “consequences” of my husband donating his sperm. We have our own family and I feel certain his data is protected by the sperm bank.

What can YOU do?

Are you interested in becoming a sperm donor, or do you know anyone who may be? Please take a look at our website to find out more or call us at +4588771757. Our donor coordinators are ready for any questions you might have! If you are considering using a sperm donor, please do not hesitate to contact us at info@europeanspermbank.com.

“Most men will donate sperm because they want to help”

In October 2017 students at Brand Design at KEA were briefed by European Sperm Bank on a challenge called “How to attract and motivate young men to become sperm donors?”. Here is what one of their lecturers thought about the task. 

If you are in a relationship, your partner has a huge influence whether or not you chose to become a sperm donor”, “Most men will donate because they want to help – not for the money”, “Some men feel the need for spreading their super genes”, “A lot of men don’t volunteer to be a sperm donor cause they fear for the reaction in their surroundings”.

These and many more, were some of the interesting insights our 90 students at KEA Brand Design, were able to conclude after an intense 3 week process. First, we had a briefing session where Annemette Arndal-Lauritzen from European Sperm Bank gave the students a lot of insight and background information to the challenge. After a million questions, initial thoughts and ideas our students went to work.

Every group had to create a video demonstrating their process. See one example here.

The goal for the project was not about creating final executions and strategies to solve the problem, but about gaining insights around the target group. Researching and understanding potential sperm donors, the company and market. Who they are, how they think and feel about the subject, what’s driving or stopping them etc.  We saw many different approaches in this insight hunt. Some did street interviews, some got people to illustrate how they imagine the clinic should look, some held more classic focus groups, others gave the respondents homework to do and we even had one group who asked young men to take photos of the places they would masturbate. They certainly showed many creative ways of getting knowledge.

One of our groups found that a main barrier in becoming a sperm donor is the fear of accidentally bumping into “your offspring” one day in the supermarket. The thought of meeting “mini-me’s” scare them away. The students then asked a focus group to match photos of fathers and children to investigate if the fear was real or not. And it showed that NO ONE were able to pair the right fathers and kids. So maybe this kind of fear and barrier is something to deal with.

Thanks a lot, to European Sperm Bank for giving us this challenge, it was a super project.

By Laura Elmøe, Lecturer at KEA, Brand Design, Copenhagen

Learning Experience about donor sperm and sperm quality

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“WOW!” said one of my students, looking at the rapidly moving sperm cells through the laboratory microscope.
​“It’s amazing to think that someday, one of those sperm is going to help create a baby!”
As a professor of Human Sexuality at the University of Arizona, leading 23 Public Health students into European Sperm Bank Copenhagen facility is a wonderful learning opportunity.Our visit at European Sperm Bank was one of the highlights on our four-week trip to hospitals, clinics, and universities in Belgium, the Netherlands, and Denmark.​


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Lee Ann Hamilton, Professor 
College of Public Health 
University of Arizona 
Tucson, Arizona, USA Prior to climbing the steps up to the facility, most of the college students have never thought about infertility, assisted reproduction technology, single parenting, sperm donation, or the longing for a baby.  Once inside the building, their eyes and minds open wide.   ​After learning about the short process from sperm donation to cryopreservation in the lab, we are welcomed into the warehouse of cryotanks filled with liquid nitrogen and enough sperm to repopulate the world. We learn about the safeguards in place to make sure donor semen is cataloged, stored, and shipped correctly. The work is taken very seriously and carried out with integrity, professionalism, and safety.  

As we walk through the open offices, we are greeted by friendly staff members working in open and bright work spaces.

Caring, compassionate, welcoming, forward-thinking, and fascinating. Those are words that would describe the people we meet at European Sperm Bank.

We are then fortunate to meet with Annemette Arndal-Lauritzen, CEO and Managing Director. Annemette tells us about the history, philosophy, and operations of European Sperm Bank. She patiently and respectfully answers many questions from my students.  So much of the information is brand new and, honestly, “mind-blowing.”  

As a professor of Human Sexuality, I was so excited to learn first-hand about the scientific processes that are helping women achieve pregnancy through donor insemination. 

It is interesting to learn about the extensive screening, interviewing, and testing of donors. As an adoptive mother, I understand how important biological information can be to a child (or adult child).

It is clear to me that with European Sperm Bank values and ethical practices, they are prepared to address the future needs of children created through their hard work.

I’m grateful to know that there are compassionate scientists and entrepreneurs at European Sperm Bank, who work tirelessly to help people achieve their dreams of parenthood.


//posted by Stinne, Client Service Manager at European Sperm Bank